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Aug 31
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Who do you know who honestly has your back? It’s a powerful question. If you had to identify those in your life that you could absolutely trust to back you if you needed it – how many people would there be?
Yesterday we experienced a storm here in Brisbane that damaged some areas more than others – the big grey clouds, lightning, thunder, wind and rain all railed around the city.
As I sat in the calm and tranquillity of my office and looked out of the window I realised that the weather paralleled our circumstances: everything that Julianna and I have been working toward had the potential to be torn apart by the storm brewed by others using deception and manipulation for their own gain.
Yet because of the strength of our trust and the value we both place in our partnership, Julianna and I remained steadfast despite the lightning that was directed at our integrity.
Every value that we held of importance was attacked: our discretion; our professionalism; years of hard work to lay a solid foundation of credibility. And although the attack was aimed primarily at Julianna, I definitely came under fire based on my skill set as well.
In fact, these people literally put us in an open field with a metal bar strapped to our head for the lightning to find and it was our test as to whether or not we stood firm or ran for the nearest tree!
So when you face the integrity storm – whether it’s with friends, at work or with family - do you cower or brave it? And exactly who has your back when it happens?
Here are some things I have learned and experienced since working with Julianna:
- We don’t get to choose the tests we face in life. Just like storms, they can brew out of sight until suddenly they sweep in from the west and catch us unawares: and the only way that we know our integrity stands is if it’s pushed;
- People are unsure how to deal with solid, inner strength. When you know who you are, where you’ve come from and are transparent about what you want to achieve, it makes those who are unsure, doubtful and weak around you very uncomfortable;
- If you stick to your truth and make a concerted effort to act with integrity in everything you do, then no matter how hard people try to push you off your track, discredit you and manipulate your abilities for their gain, they will never succeed.
Julianna and I are now even firmer in our partnership as a result of this week’s situation, just as your relationships will be with those who have your back when you are put to the test. And because I used the analogy of the weather at the start, I will quote the inimitable Dolly Parton to finish: “The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain."
See who is around you; know who has your back; and move forward knowing you can add their strength to your own when it’s needed.
Written by Nicole Fisher, Julianna’s Business Partner
Subscribe to this comment's feedwritten by Nico , September 01, 2011
What if you don't know anyone that has your back. Isn't it enough to just have your own? Maybe I am cynical in my old age (ha!) or maybe you are lucky but either way, thank you.
And thank you and Julianna for Spirited Sunday Sessions, Spirit of Friendship and so much more. I may not know who has my back I do have you and I am lucky for that.
Love Nicolette xxx
written by NicoleF , September 01, 2011
written by Lynda Toohey , September 01, 2011
written by NicoleF , September 01, 2011
It's all about being yourself and being true isn't it? Giving voice to those you support, knowing where the strength lies and sparkling all the way!!!! N x
written by Reecy , September 01, 2011
written by Trudi , September 01, 2011
Well, I have your back! I have a few special soul friends that I know it is reciprocated that we would have each others back. It has happened in the past but it is instinctual as we think we are brought together through the divine light.
I do want to say though, when someone attacks you, in whatever way, it is usually about themselves and it is a reflection of what they are, not you...
Remember the divine light surrounding you and protecting you.
Hugs, Trudi
written by NicoleF , September 01, 2011
I’m glad that you are able to take stock of the people around you as a result and realize the positivity of those who would and do have your back. It's empowering and deserved, N x
written by Rohan , September 01, 2011
written by NicoleF , September 01, 2011
Thanks so much for your comments, insights and support - Julianna and I always write about what's happened to us and the key things - good and bad - that we can take from them and how they may also be helpful in your life if not right now, perhaps in the future.
One of the best things for me this week has been not only realizing how much Jules and I have each others backs, but how many people I have in my life that I would back in an instant - and that's because they'd back me based on mutual respect, integrity and honest intent, N x
written by Tamm , August 31, 2011
written by Coralie , August 31, 2011
Hey I loved you’re news letter this week!! Every time you ladies send one it seems to be perfect and in reference to what’s happening in my world! Love you guys! Xxx
Big hugs
Coralie
written by Ingrid Cliff , August 31, 2011
Storms can also bring out the worst in people - with those who seek to prosper from others challenges. These are the people with no conscience, cold hearts and a sense of entitlement. Luckily these people are in the minority, but the pain they cause can be strong.
Nicole & Julianna, I have only ever seen truth, honesty and integrity from both of you. Whatever the challenges you have been through this week, know there are more people quietly supporting you than those people without hearts or conscience.
Sending you both hugs.
written by Janet , August 31, 2011
you are right - it's just as important to have your own but unless you live in a cave or on the top of a mountain and don't talk to anyone or see them, it's inevitable that you're going to have a situation where you need support. It may not be an attack or clash, it could just be if you need to talk - having someone's back comes in all guises... Thanks for your thoughts and we're glad to have you too, N xxxx