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Jan 25
2011
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Why Life Winners Emerge From The Biggest Losers Who Embrace ChangePosted by: julianna Tagged in: Positive Change
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“The Biggest Loser” is a television program aired in many countries in which contestants compete for a cash prize and the winner is the one who has lost the most amount of weight. There are versions in the US, UK, France, New Zealand and in many countries, which I’m sure you’re familiar with, and the Australian version is about to start with a new series featuring families.
As a trained intuitive profiler I don’t agree with all aspects of the program and the way that the contestants are sometimes manipulated, but I have been moved and shocked at the promotional ads on TV in Australia this week showing one woman who turns to one of the trainers after she’s walked off the set and says “I don’t want to change – there, I’ve said it!”
Now this lady is obese, and presumably she has serious health issues associated with this that affect her quality of life, but when forced to make a choice about changing what’s comfortable, familiar and safe in her life, she is terrified.
Even if she doesn’t like the results of these comfortable, familiar and safe choices – which have led to her being obese and limiting what she can do in her life – she is more terrified of losing what these mean to her and what she knows than gaining the benefits of adding healthy living to her current existence.
This small piece of footage struck me so much because even now in our channelling sessions with my Highest Guide Elizabeth and when people seek a psychic reading from me, it surprises me how many people will argue as to why they should continue doing things the way they do and thinking the way they do – even though they are clearly not happy with their present situation and they have sought my advice as to their future if they continue to do what they are doing.
In asking what you can do to change your situation, you recognise that your current way of doing things is not working and this is a major step to making change, whether it involves your health, your finances, your career, your relationships, your mindset or any aspect of your life that affects they way you think and feel about yourself.
But the major challenge once you receive advice – from me or others – is to acknowledge whether you WANT to change and start acting on that advice. That involves seeing change as an addition to your life, not a loss or a fear; seeing it as something that you must do to realize your dreams or potential, rather than something you academically acknowledge would be good to do if other factors fell into place first or if you could be bothered.
We’ve all bought the self-help books, the relationship books, the diet books and the financial wizardry books telling us what we need to do; read them and then put them on our shelves. Why? Because we wanted a quick fix rather than real change.
Real change comes from wanting to add to your life rather than take from it. How? By adding time spent with your family doing something you love rather than spending so much time making money for someone else; by adding love into your life and appreciation for all the things that make you unique rather than spending time questioning yourself and wondering why you are always criticised; by adding your ideas and ability to help others into the world rather than wondering if you’d ever make a difference; by spending time walking and playing with family and friends rather than sitting on the couch.
Real change is about being the big winner in your life by embracing it, and not being the biggest loser when you live in fear and cling to what you know.

written by julianna suranyi , February 16, 2011
I agree that the first step is the difficult one then it just propels you forward!
love,
Julianna.
written by Kitten Beans , January 26, 2011
written by Nerida , January 26, 2011
I have seen the 'Biggest Loser' ad that you are talking about and being a person who would happily stand with her head in a pile of horse poo to avoid confrontation; I found it quite gut-wrenching to watch. I can imagine how scary it must be for the woman in the ad, to have the chance to change so close, yet to be so terrified that you will stuff it up that you don't even try. You don't like having to face the reality of who you are right now and what your life is like, but even worse, once you have lost the weight you won't have any excuses left. What if all your greatest fears are true, and your weight has nothing to do with how people treat you, or where your life is at? What if it's just you?
A long time ago I read a quotation in a book that said; "If you don't like what you are doing, either change your attitude or change what you are doing." This is one of my favourite quotations, but I am starting to realise that life is not so cut and dry (I know - I 'm a genius, right?) For a long time I have been changing what I am doing, seeking fulfillment through a "career" (I've had a few), but without changing my attitude TOWARDS MYSELF it seems that the more things change the more they stay the same.
Mmmmm, I should write this stuff down somehwere . . .








yes you always get what you get if you do not change the system. yes, changing can be difficult as w e are not naturally geared toward it as change is often seen as threatening and not an addition.
Nerida-you crack me up!!
Love,
Jules.