Whenever I find myself facing a personal challenge I always focus on three core questions and ask myself who I am, what I stand for and how I choose to "do" me (do is active - be is passive).
Next time you are faced with a challenge, whether it is a choice you have to make or a job you’d rather not undertake, ask yourself these important questions to determine your best course of action.
Who are you right now?
This is not about who you want to be in the future. It’s not what you have on a vision board for the next five years. But who you are right at this moment. Who you are right now will be your foundation for where you can go.
So choose five of your great qualities and tell yourself that no matter how tired or frustrated you are, you are, for example, strong, intelligent, thoughtful, loud and vibrant.
In asking yourself who you are, be truthful with the answers to the following:
a) Do you aim to achieve goals - not dreams?
b) Will you grow and develop in the areas that you need to in order to seek more capacity to add value to these goals?
c) Will you ask for advice, information or knowledge to assist in this growth? This is important because fear and ignorance are not bliss, they are ego without restraint - and this will not contribute to your positive development.
What do you stand for?
Will you action decisions that may or may not be liked, if it means that you will keep your core stability?
And will you keep your belief that you were born to be doing exactly what you are doing - even when criticized, condemned and challenged by society? If not, it may be time to reassess what you stand for.
But by knowing where you stand you will remain on track to fulfill the goals that you have set and it remains an anchor when you’re faced with my many challenges.
How do you choose to “Do” you?
How you choose to "do" you is perhaps the most significant of all decisions in challenging times and in challenging situations.
Some great qualities to choose are directness, warmth, love and humour. Why these qualities?
- With directness we are never misinformed of where we all sit with each other
- With warmth we are able to breach the hardest defences
- With love we stay honest to our core beliefs and with those that mean the most to us
- With humour we are able to move any ill will to our bodies and minds when under attack
It has never been more important than at this time in our humanity to know who we are, what we stand for and how we choose to do "us". Because never more so than now are we constantly subjected to scaremongering from the media, our wider community and those around us who perhaps do not know who they are, what they stand for and how to do them.
With this lack of understanding we may be subject to others' opinions, whims or movements that actually pull us AWAY from where we are meant to be and where we are meant to GO.
Be true to yourself because no tough time, personal challenge or environmental element can ever take your sense of self and humanity away - that is your choice and yours alone to identify, keep and grow when you focus on these three core thoughts.
