I have recently received many emails about suicide and the transition of souls, the ability of a soul to come to me in a reading and the question of why people choose this path.
The death of British fashion designer Alexander McQueen from a suspected suicide has also thrown the spotlight on the tragedy of suicide and the removal of creativity, joy, beauty and life from the world that this act results in, regardless of whom suicides.
Regretting the Pain and Fear
I think it is incredible how at times, the human mind feels that the only option it has is to leave life; how sometimes we find that it is as easy to give up as it is to channel that energy into moving forward in various areas of our lives.
Let me make it clear that I don’t endorse suicide. I definitely do feel though that if, for whatever reason someone chooses this path, it means to me that it is their walk and obviously where they’re meant to go and what they’re meant to do, because that’s where they end up.
From a psychic perspective – I have never yet met a soul that suicided that hasn’t regretted the pain and the fear and the angst that they’ve left behind, or a soul that hasn’t thought about how it affects everyone else after the fact.
A Tragic Story
I distinctly remember a lady coming to me years ago whose 19 year old boy had suicided. Tragically also, her other son had suicided when he was 17. The 17 year old had suicided four years previously, so in the space of five years she’d lost two of her three children.
She said to me, “I’m so angry because suicide is such a selfish decision making process. Everybody talks to each other all the time about what’s going on, what going wrong, what they need, what their ambitions are, what they want to be doing with their life and yet, no one ever talks or enters into the conversation when they want to end their life - but we are expected to constantly live with the result of that decision.”
I always remember that because it really moved me. Once I had my boys, I looked at them and thought: as someone who is capable of talking to spirit, whose calling or role is to be doing that – how would I feel if that happened to me? How would I feel if I was the person in front of me desperately seeking the answers as to why this happened?
I felt that lady was right – it is such an incredibly selfish act and often we think that those who have committed it don’t think about that at the time.
But I have found that once these souls pass into spirit, it seems to be the only thing that they do think of. They recognise the selfishness and total consumption they had, to the point that they never gave their family the opportunity at times to be able to truly assist and work with them.
So in answer to your questions:
- Do souls or spirits transition if they have committed suicide? I have found that they do.
- Are they held accountable for their actions in the spirit world? Not as far as I’m aware in that they still transition and they still move, but their essence more than anything seems to be the part that is held accountable. It’s almost like they are held back by their choice due to their guilt and the need to say sorry and goodbye. They can even be held back until confronted by their family's anger. Ironically they want a freedom that they think death is going to give them and yet in death they seem trapped with incapacity to move forward because they are locked down in this mode of grief and regret for what they have left behind for other people to deal with.
- Why do people choose this path? I don’t know. But I’d like for people to recognise that if they actually think that death is a release, all they are doing is transitioning into another domain where they are suddenly taking pain with them, but they can’t come back to articulate it to those left behind. Whilst I do believe that suicide is part of someone’s journey I feel as a human and spiritualist that it’s an affront to God to do it. I feel when you choose that road you have blocked out everyone that you love – and you can’t reverse it.
I realise that this is a heavy subject but my aim is to help those that need it. If I am asked about a topic, especially repeatedly as I have been about this, then I will do my best to answer those questions based on my experiences, knowledge and beliefs.
If you are aware of someone needing assistance please pass on these numbers to them:
- Lifeline 13 11 14 (within Australia). Their telephone counsellors are trained in crisis support and suicide prevention and may provide support and information.
- Under 18 years of age - call Kid’s Helpline on 1800 55 1800 (within Australia).
This new national service is also available http://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/ and offers professional telephone counselling for the bereaved.
My hope is that I have helped those who sought these answers and I wish you love and care on your journey.
