How many times do you meet with certain people and feel completely drained while with others you always walk away feeling energised? So many people tell me that they hold onto negative energies from others in their work place, with family members or in certain friendship situations.
We all come into contact with people that simply suck us energetically dry and I call them the Energy Vampires. You know them – they come to you in the office/your home/on the phone, dump all the problems they are having with their spouse/child/boss/friend on you then walk away feeling better while you feel drained, annoyed and tired. Or they are always asking for your help/ideas/information for nothing in return and keep expecting you to come up with solutions for them. Or my favourite - they always tell you what you should be doing in a certain situation, thinking they are helping you but really wearing you out.
How to Recognise When You’ve Been Bitten
So what happens when your energy is taken? Whether your energy vampire is the Edward Cullen variety (we wish) or the traditional Count Dracula type, when it occurs you will feel exhausted either on a subtle or dramatic level.
When it’s subtle you feel exhausted as the day progresses, you lack concentration and are easily distracted. Often it will happen when you have people around you who gently take your energy because they need your emotional and mental support all day, especially from people who will delegate to you rather than do what is needed to be done themselves.
When it’s dramatic – you really know it! It’s extremely obvious when your energy is sucked by people who heap drama or aggression on you within an instant of meeting or coming in contact with them. These people have high emotional needs and you will find yourself frustrated, impatient and upset within a very short space of time in their company.
Fighting the Energy Vampires
So how do we take back our power and control those who take our energy whether it is consciously done by them or not? These three simple steps will help you.
- Ask yourself why you choose to be around this person/situation or environment? Then work with the answer. If you find that you don’t want to be with them and can choose not to, then minimise your contact. If this person is at work and unavoidable, then state what you are and are not prepared to do as part of your job function. Should this person be within the family or friendship area then outline to yourself what you are and are not prepared to converse about and let them know your boundaries.
- Use White Light. I love working with White Light as I find that White Light gives us the capacity to think clearly, move negative feelings or frequencies and set and establish new feelings and frequencies. Imagine that you have a zip lock bag - the kind you place lunches in to keep them fresh. Imagine placing the energy vampire and situation around them into this bag and visualise this bag as a white, bright luminous colour. What you are doing here is containing your frustration, isolating their negative energy and minimising the impact of the situation on you. Then in your mind ask your Spirit Guides to take the bag and place it within their strength to resolve.
- Wash away their energy. Imagine that you are in a shower of White Guidance Light and allow it to wash away all of your energy from the day. As you do this ask “My Highest and Purest of Guidance, please allow for all energy that is not mine to be removed through your beautiful white light and please only allow your strength and purpose to remain”. You will feel better, if not immediately, then soon after.
The interesting thing about other people’s energy and the impact that energy vampires have on you is that they rarely realise how much they affect you, but these simple steps offer a solution to identify and minimise their impact.
Remember to recognise the energy vampire – who, where, when and how the energy depletion occurs. Minimise and, at the least, control the environment in which this occurs by not allowing people to enter into situations or conversations you do not want to be part of. Finally know that your Spirit Guides are there to assist you with this so ask for their help.
Once you begin to manage this situation and become assertive with controlling your energetic reactions to your environment you will increase your attention span, your physical energy will grow and your capacity to recognise and move around your environments without cause for concern will amplify dramatically. Best of all, your energy vampires will be vanquished for good.
