I constantly hear people say how much they want to start or continue their personal, spiritual and intuitive development and I fully understand why people wish to do this. Yet I cannot understand why people fail to put checks and balances in place in order to determine where their development currently sits; how far or little their development has come; how much those around them have interacted with their development; and how often or not they actually implement this development.
So, based on the theory that most of us know exactly where our finances sit but rarely stop to see where our personal checks and balances are, I offer you this simple questionnaire to test your current soul bank balance. The intention of sending this to people is for you to notice the common values within their observations – not for you to take the observations as criticisms.
I suggest that you send this questionnaire to 10 people who are from a mix of your career sphere, friendship sphere, personal /spiritual development groups, professional development groups, a few family members and even people who have met you socially.
You will soon see your personal / soul investment attributes and where you are in deficit! Why do it this way? Because it allows you to get a broad view of how people in very different areas of your life spectrum observe you to be and it will point out the commonalities that you may need to work on.
I did the questionnaire this week as I am increasingly frustrated at wanting to achieve a few things that are within touching distance and yet I just want them NOW! So, in the spirit of checking that I have continued my soul development and to ensure that in the pursuit of these goals I have not fallen into soul deficit, I sent this to six mentors from every possible sphere in my life and to a few family members - my son included.
Here are the questions:
- When I am in your presence do you feel you have 100% of my attention? How much percentage do you think you have? How much do you think you should have? (I have said think you ‘should have’ as some people actually expect you to be busy and therefore not giving of all your attention when they are with you. I believe it should be close to 100%.)
- How do you rate our relationship?
- When we are together what more would you like to share? (Do you feel our relationship is restricted due to its nature of development or my personal affability?)
- Do you feel there is anything I could improve upon for my type of relationship with you? (deficit still needs attention)
- Are there any changes about me you think could be improved or extended upon? (deficit still needs attention)
- What have you noticed I have grown in, in respect to my capacities? (investment returns)
- Would you like to continue this relationship?
- Why would you like to continue this relationship?
And my answers were:
- Now interestingly, this question was met with a unanimous rating of between 40 and 60% for how much attention my crew felt I give them at the time of being together - big shock to me. The comments about me answering the phone or us being disturbed by another person were unilateral. So, obviously, I need to turn off the phone or better prioritise my time and my quality of time.
- Each person rated our relationship as high but felt it had slipped due to quality of time and rushing to catch up due to busy schedules etc. Sadly I had not realised how much I don’t commit to people for general chat anymore.
- This did not change much from what we do now as each person said they are comfortable with me. The only exception was that one of these is a work relationship that developed into a friendship. When I used to consult there I would take him a muffin and we would eat and chat then work. Now he provides the muffin because I am always rushing! We had a ritual of friendship so I have reclaimed the muffin now! Rituals are important as they let you relax and zone into where you want to be. I always make a cuppa before I call Maree or Nicole for a breakdown of anything as I feel a great bond with them with this simple gesture. After all, as Maree says “there is nothing a tea cannot fix.”
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- Had the same answers: unanimously - don’t rush in and out. Give us more of you during this time. Not the brand, not the persona, just Jules - the you we love to chat to, pick on and joke with. Yes, I am clearly seeing the pattern now: time, time, time, time, time...
- The answers here surprised me. I was told I have grown more introvert and quiet. The consensus was that not a lot of people realise I am this anyway. I would agree with this. Playing in the public arena is where my Guides and my God have sent me to get this life work done. It doesn’t mean it comes comfortably or naturally so I do tend to be a hermit to refresh. And, I have grown more tolerant of people! Yep that’s a corker!! But it is a stronger trait the more I grow in public profile.
- Yes they would like to continue the relationship. That was very good to hear, especially from my son!
- They wanted to continue it because they value my input into their lives. They value that I don’t interrupt unless asked by them. They value my loyalty and honesty whether as a client or as a friend. They concluded that I just need to slow down and take more time when I’m with the rest of the world.
So where to now from this?
As you can imagine there was a lot of commentary by my lovely set. The pattern was one of appreciating and valuing each other when together without interruptions. So from now on I will commit more time, make more plans to have people over where we will not be interrupted and I will be aware that time will move on but great relationships will continue to ripen.
Go ask people these questions and pay attention to the pattern of the answers.
My investment in being open, honest, loyal and direct is paying dividends. But my lack of time and quality of time to commit to relationships is a soul deficit I need to adjust.
So where is does your soul bank balance sit? Is it full and flush, just breaking even or in deficit?










